Yes, it’s been a very long time since I posted. But I really do have a good excuse. In April, we suffered two major, messy water-damage incidents to our house. Please note that I did not write “…to our home.” And you’ll see why I chose not to use the warmer, fuzzier noun in reference to the place where I live.
Anyway, in April, the kids’ toilet backed up and overflowed! Then that sewage flooded their bathroom, and the guest bath below it, and the basement playroom. Widespread damage. Homeowner insurance headaches. No time or extra money for a summer vacation. Contractors. Estimates. Clean up. Mold. Random nails. Mess. Drama. Mess. Setbacks. Oh, yes, and the dead rat found in the basement.
And I should say, these bathrooms that were destroyed were remodeled less than a year ago! The one toilet, out of three, that we didn’t replace because it was perfectly fine, is the one that betrayed us…
Without going on and on about every setback related to this drama, the house is not yet put back together (yes, it’s been almost six months).
But here’s where today’s post title comes in…my husband and I began thinking of downsizing about a year ago. The idea was to downscale when our daughter goes off to college. But, frankly, I have been dreaming of moving from this Monster House for eight years. The home has a history of horror, some of which I am still dealing with as I type this post. The above-mentioned mess was just the climax of a series of unfortunate domicile-related nightmares.
The fun never ends here at Monster House.
Anyway, back to the main idea. We had been thinking of moving, although the idea disgusts my husband. He hates the idea of moving for a number of reasons.
But it would make sense to downshift and downsize once we have only one tween living with us and a kid away in college, right? Right.
We’d been thinking that in spring, we’d begin getting ready to move. We’d find a place, cast off all unnecessary stuff we’d been holding onto for years, and ease into a simpler, lovelier life.
And then I found a home that I loved (way ahead of our schedule). I’d seen the house earlier this summer, but I assumed that it had already been snatched up. Of course, the market is returning at a healthy clip here now.
The would-be buyers, I found out later, weren’t able to qualify for the home. It went back on the market.
And so, our real estate agent took us to see it. I was shocked that my husband even wanted to visit the house, since he absolutely hates house shopping, and he was keeping our original schedule in mind.
But he loved it as much as I did.
And I held this place in my heart, for longer than I wanted to admit to him or anyone else. I wanted to feel just as Jennifer of Not Calm Dot Com (a blog I just discovered) seems to delight in her new place.
And yet, he decided not to put our names in the hat and make an offer…
Even though the house is smaller than Monster House…
Even though he can well afford the home…
Even though he knows so many of my son’s best schoolmates live across and down the street from the home…
Even though it’s offered at a great price…
Even though we’ve made mistakes in home purchasing before—our current home notwithstanding—which have cost us, yes, nearly $1M! The “M” stands for “million,” y’all.
Even though I feel— I kno,—I’d be delighted to live in that “little-ish” house.
Yes, it’s a tad farther away from my husband’s job, but only five miles more, and I’d promised to drive him to work each and every day.
So we told our agent we’ll pass…hubby wasn’t ready. And we know from past experience, we both need to be fully onboard with these things. That’s the marriage part.
Even though it breaks my heart to think about it. I want so badly to leave this house that has sucked us of so many resources (monetary and emotional), but this opportunity has passed.
So the trick now to is be hopeful, I guess, and trust that something else will come along. As time seems to rush by so much more quickly now for me at this age, I hope that the disappointments in life (large and smallish) will breeze in and out of my heart and soul quickly with little or no lasting damage.